How to Be Brave, Even When You’re Not

In the quiet corners of everyday life, courage often begins with a whisper, a gentle nudge that pushes us beyond our comfort zones. The mantra "Do It Scared" isn't just a phrase, but a lifestyle—a reminder that bravery isn't about the absence of fear but about acting despite it. This concept took a physical form when I crafted a simple yet profound symbol: the "Do It Scared" ring, for myself. A daily companion on my journey towards embracing vulnerability.

Bravery is often misconstrued as the absence of fear, but true courage means acknowledging your fears and deciding to move forward anyway. It's about making choices and taking steps, even small ones, towards your goals even when your instincts urge you to retreat. The "Do It Scared" philosophy is about the everyday heroism required to face life's challenges—whether it's a professional leap, personal vulnerability, or social engagement.

Incorporating physical reminders like a mantra-engraved ring can be incredibly powerful. Psychological studies suggest that having a tangible anchor can help ground our emotions and enhance our courage. This aids not just in momentary bravery but in fostering a sustained practice of courage. Wearable reminders serve as continual prompts to act boldly, complementing the internal dialogue that encourages us to move past fear.

Here are several methods to foster bravery in your daily life, drawing on the essence of "Do It Scared":

1. Identify and Acknowledge Fear: Recognize what scares you and articulate it. Understanding the root of your fear is the first step to overcoming it.
2. Small Steps Are Still Steps: Break down overwhelming tasks into manageable actions. Each small step forward, taken despite fear, builds your confidence and reinforces a brave mindset.
3. Use Visual or Physical Reminders: Whether it's a ring, a written note, or a symbolic tattoo, keep a physical reminder of your commitment to face challenges head-on.
4. Reflect on Past Successes: Remind yourself of times when you acted despite fear and succeeded. These memories can serve as powerful motivators.
5. Build a Supportive Community: Surround yourself with people who encourage and empower you. Sharing your fears and hearing others' experiences with bravery can inspire and give perspective.

My journey with this mantra began in the most personal way possible. Running a small business, I found myself often teetering on the edge of opportunities, holding myself back by the mental wall that is potential rejection. It was during these moments of hesitation that "Do It Scared" became my mantra. From a fleeting thought to a stamped declaration I carry with me every day—a constant reminder that courage is not about winning the battle against fear but about deciding to battle at all.

Making the decision to engrave this personal mantra was transformative, not just for me but, also, for my 12-year-old daughter as well. When faced with the challenge of making new friends in an unfamiliar environment, the ring I made for her became her own emblem of bravery, a tool to harness her courage in moments of uncertainty.

Isn't it funny how sometimes, what starts as a tiny "what if" can balloon into a "whoa, this is actually happening"? That's exactly the rollercoaster I hopped on when I decided to put my heart on my sleeve—or, more accurately, my mantra on a ring—and see if it struck a chord with anyone else.

It turned out this small symbol of courage, this little reminder that we're all in this messy thing called life together, hit home for so many. It's like we uncovered a secret handshake, a silent nod that says, "Yep, I get it. I'm with you." And it just goes to show, we're all a little scared, but oh, we're so brave too.

Bravery isn't reserved for the few; it's a choice available to all. The "Do It Scared" philosophy embodies the spirit of everyday heroism, encouraging us not just to confront our fears but to use them as catalysts for growth and empowerment. As we each strive to embrace this mantra in our lives, let's remember that courage doesn't always roar—sometimes, it's the quiet voice at the end of the day whispering, "I will try again tomorrow."

Embrace the journey, cherish your mantra, and remember—do it scared.